This is one of my favorite TV shows.
Bethenny Frankel is probably the only real person
on reality television.
She's open, honest, transparent, and what you see and hear
is what you get.
(I mean really, what comes out of her mouth sometimes,
couldn't be scripted)
She and I are nothing alike, except in one way.
On the show last Monday night,
as Bethenny talked to her shrink about her life,
the subject of
Who in the relationship is the bad person?
Simply put, to the world that knows you as a couple
and in your own little world as a couple,
there's one of you who's good and one who's bad.
Bethenny is decisive, speaks her mind, knows what she wants.
That's me too.
Of course there's a downside to this.
Sometimes hasty decisions become the one's we regret.
Speaking one's mind sometimes comes off sounding judgmental
(To be honest, the unfiltered mind is judgmental)
Knowing what you want can change in 30 seconds,
after you've already made a decision and spoken your mind.
My boyfriend is like Jason.
Easy going, happy, smiling.
Slow to speak, slow to make decisions, non judgmental.
To me, that can be translated:
Having no opinion (how can you not?)
Non-confrontive (afraid to speak up).
He has told our children over the years,
"Your mother gets everything she wants."
That of course, continues the notion that I'm the
On the big other hand,
if you were to ask my boyfriend who is the bad one in our relationship,
he would probably say that he is.
His reasoning would go something like this,
"She's always telling me how to handle my business,
always has to be right, is always there with an opinion."
This has led to conflict through the years.
Which has then led to conflict resolution.
(And celebrating each other's differences)
The show on Monday ended with,
to be continued...
(don't you hate how some people drag things out?)
And to be continued, pretty much says it all.
What's your relationship like? Is there a good one and a bad one?
Which one are you?
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